For some couples (I call them the “unicorn couples”), remaining at house together 24/7 with nothing to do means doing the nasty more than you did when you were first dating. But for a lot of couples, staying at home implies an absence of inspiration, an abundance of takeout, and a disregard for basic hygiene. To put it simply, your sex drive (and total intimacy in the relationship) has been on the lower side nowadays.
However with chilly temperature levels outside and a stay-at-home order still in effect, you’ve got nowhere to go. It’s the ideal time to reignite that stimulate with a little comfortable night in your home. Whether you’re freshly dating or have been together for decades, consider this the extensive list of whatever you require for the romantic night you should have (BTW, the same guidelines apply if you’re delighting in a night of self-love too). Get in the state of mind, light a candle (more on that below), and have a romantic night in, thanks to these spark-igniting must-haves.
1. The right aroma
Candle lights not just set a romantic ambiance thanks to dim lighting and flickering fire (there’s a reason the sex scenes in every rom-com include candles), however sensuality is about awakening each of the senses, which consists of odor. While some aromas might be arousing based on an individual memory (like rose from the fragrance you wore on your wedding night or vanilla from a lotion you used on your first trip away together), other scents may serve as aphrodisiacs. Look for candle lights with spicy notes like cinnamon and sandalwood, elegant aromas like vanilla and ylang-ylang, or unwinding fragrances like lavender and sage.
2. Bath (or shower) essentials
Getting “in the state of mind” is not almost the 10-30 minutes leading up to sex; it’s about constructing the anticipation throughout the whole day. Set yourself up for feeling your finest by delighting in some self-care in the bath or shower. Try dry brushing, exfoliating with bath salts or body scrubs, and massaging in an oil. Oh, and don’t forget to inspect yourself out in the mirror (confidence is the # 1 best sex hack!). Plus, a relaxing bath or steamy shower can be part of the romantic night if you wish to bring your significant other with you. After all, sex is self-care.
3. Elegant beauty items
Speaking of confidence, how much pleasure you feel is not identified by how you look to your partner, but it can be figured out by how you feel about yourself (your partner is going to believe you’re smokin’, no matter what). Get your glow on with the charm items that make you feel your really best.
4. Music to set the state of mind
It’s not a surprise that music determines the mood. How else would we understand to feel excited and hopeful if the rom-com didn’t consist of Why Can’t I by Liz Phair, and would we even burst into tears if My Heart Will Go On didn’t play at the end of Titanic? Would Jaws be so frightening without the challenging theme song, or would the increased ceremonies on The Bachelorette feel as remarkable without the suspenseful soundtrack? Music informs us how to feel, which chooses getting in the state of mind too. Make a playlist of the songs that make you feel confident, sexy, and romantic, or switch on our “Get Attractive” playlist, filled with all the tunes 13-year-old you were scandalized by (in the best way).
5. Lube
Our editor, Beth, even went so far as to state, “Individual lube is not an option in my book; it is a needed tool for sexual satisfaction and health. Choose a lube that will not only increase pleasure, however will be excellent for your vaginal area, thanks to non-toxic active ingredients, nourishing formulas, and treatment-like advantages.
6. Something pretty to use
Disclaimer: if you feel your absolute best in your birthday suit, you go, girl. Do not hesitate to skip this point and go on with your bad self. If using some quite underwear or wrapping yourself in a smooth robe gets you in the state of mind, you deserve to treat yourself to something indulgent and luxe. If full-on underwear isn’t your thing, even a pair of new underwear or a pajama set that makes you feel hot can totally revamp your sex life (yes, really). After all, remember that your enjoyment directly correlates to your self-confidence, and if a lacy bra helps you seem like the badass you are, it’s well worth any cost.
7. An activity
You might not think you require another activity than the activity, but try out conversation-starters like a couple’s journal or question cards might not only break you out of your regular but could also assist you find out brand-new features of your partner and even motivate you to try new things (yes, even if you’ve been together ~ permanently ~). Particularly if interaction in the bed room is not your strong point or if you’re still finding out what you like and do not like, prompted questions can be a fun, relaxing method to open communication.
8. Vibrator or sex toy
If you feel stuck in a sex rut or have trouble orgasming with your partner (AKA 75 percent of women), the response might be including a vibrator or sex toy. Exploring and trying brand-new things is constantly important, but it’s likewise a good concept to have a go-to vibrator or sex toy that you both take pleasure in using (which you likewise enjoy utilizing alone). If you have not found a favorite or are interested in exploring, we have many useful guides on vibrators and sex toys for partners (tip: there are lots of choices). Bottom line: talk it out together, explore some choices, and find out what you would both like.
9. Elegant bed linen
Sex is better on vacation? Whether clean sheets and crisp pillows are turn-ons to you or not, updating your bed linen can switch up your environment, and simply a little modification can make sex feel brand-new.
Speaking of confidence, how much satisfaction you feel is not determined by how you look to your partner, but it can be identified by how you feel about yourself (your partner is going to believe you’re smokin’, no matter what). Make a playlist of the tunes that make you feel confident, sexy, and romantic, or turn on our “Get Attractive” playlist, filled with all the tunes 13-year-old you were scandalized by (in the best method).
If full-on underwear isn’t your thing, even a set of new underclothing or a pajama set that makes you feel sexy can entirely revamp your sex life (yes, actually). If you feel stuck in a sex rut or have problem orgasming with your partner (AKA 75 percent of ladies), the response may be integrating a vibrator or sex toy. Whether crisp pillows and clean sheets are turn-ons to you or not, updating your bedding can switch up your environment, and just a small modification can make sex feel new.